“Love’s virtues are described as patient and kind, and not arrogant, rude, or irritable. The opposite of loving others is selfishness, or the love of self. So if you hear words funneling out of your mouth that are unkind, ungracious, and condemning, you can know that those words are not showing love to the person you are speaking to. You should stop and consider whom you are loving at that moment.”
John Crotts, Graciousness: Tempering Truth with Love. Grand Rapids, MI: Reformation Heritage Books, 2018, page 61.